This past weekend I was at school, and I was sad to hear some students in my class say “I can’t” about different aspects of our training. It got me to thinking about the fact that your thoughts become your reality.
Of course you can’t just lay in bed and think yourself rich, or think yourself thin, or think yourself muscular, or think yourself into passing a test. That’s not what I mean when I say that your thoughts become your reality. Obviously, you have to take action to achieve your goals. But without that first step of orienting your mind toward your goals, you won’t get there. You’ve likely heard this before, but “whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.“
So what DO I mean when I say that your thoughts become your reality?
Your thoughts are the catalysts for your actions. Your thoughts become your reality because they are the beginning of action (or lack thereof). For example, you can’t move your finger unless your brain tells it to move – you can see that your thought becomes your action. So if you keep thinking limiting thoughts like “I’m fat / I’m poor / I don’t get chemistry”, you are not going to achieve your goals. You’ll be done before you even begin! Why would your brain or your body bother with action in the right direction if you don’t think you can get there?
If you reframe your thoughts to “I’m beautiful / I’m wealthy / I can understand chemistry with ease”, you pave the way to achieve your goals. With the right mindset, you can really achieve anything you want (well, anything within the laws of gravity, physics, whatever).
The next time you catch yourself having a self-limiting thought, stop it immediately. Then, re-frame that thought into a positive. For example: “I’m never going to be able to wear that cute dress because I’m so fat” can be changed to “I can’t wait until the day I can fit into that cute dress because I’m so fit”. Or, “There’s no way I’ll ever run a half marathon because I’ve let myself go” can be changed to “I love working out and eating well so that I can run a half marathon next spring.” Or in a school context, “I am going to fail my next test because I can’t learn chemistry” can be changed to “I love learning about the body and how it works on the inside so I will take the time to study and learn about chemistry so that I can ace my next test”.
At first, doing this thought exercise will feel awkward and maybe even fake or inauthentic. Often we hold on to limiting beliefs because of fear. But take a deep breath, believe in yourself and keep at it – slowly but surely you can change your thought pattern into one that motivates positive action and attracts your desired outcomes.
Got it? Great! I’d love to hear some of your limiting thoughts and how you’re going to change them around this week. Share them in the comments below!